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Have a burning question about Sugar Daddy dating?

Welcome to the NEW “Ask Taylor” Podcast!

Have a Sugar Baby question? Get it answered. Not sure what to ask? You can ask me anything about the Sugar Baby lifestyle. No question is too big or too small. Ask Taylor is my brand new, upcoming DAILY podcast that features an actual question submitted from someone like you!

Why Ask Taylor?

Before the idea for Ask Taylor, I used to answer questions submitted from Sugar Baby’s and questions asked on the SugaInsider Sweet Talk Podcast, which isn’t going away. But, I felt like the questions asked on the podcast changed the feel of the episodes that were often about something else and questions were becoming repetitious.  So, I decided to dedicate an entire show to answering your questions instead! Each show is in a bite-sized 3-5 minute format, and it’s a more organized way to deliver even more value to you and the entire Sugar Daddy Formula audience.

How To Ask a Question

I want this show to be fun, personal, and extremely helpful! Please note that by submitting a voicemail question, you’re allowing me to share it publicly on the podcast. If your question is featured, you’ll get my virtual Sugar Baby Goody Bag. This is my way of thanking you for asking a great question and helping to deliver more value to the Sugar Daddy Formula audience.

When you ask your question, please keep your question under one minute in length. If it goes a little over, that’s fine, but please keep it concise and to the point. And you can start off by following this format: “Hi, Taylor. My name is Amber. My question is…” So, go ahead and submit a question by leaving a voicemail here or below.

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Questions Answered 676

  1. Sel

    So my friends and I started sugar babying when we turned 18 and daddies like that we’re young. Moat of them don’t want to give us a allowance but want sex for free. Basically we’re getting nothing.

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      Taylor Jones

      You are ONLY getting nothing based on how you are going about it. Better methods = better results = more money. You have to understand what it is that you are doing and how you are going about it to start receiving what you want. If you want to learn my methods and see how I can help get you what you want like I do for my clients. I suggest you start with a consult via my strategy session. It’s more than worth it.

  2. killercurves

    been seeing my daddy for 7 months I’ve learned alot networking and saved money and also matured….he’s great recently he asked me about a threesome … I do like girls and am open to it …but we would pick together …all of a sudden he says this girl at his gym is bi…sends me a pic ….and I don’t know what to make of it …I’m jealous? should I be worried ….

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      Taylor Jones

      If that is making you feel a certain way already. What do you think will happen if you were to go through with it? Really think about that. Although you are open to it, you are now adding it to the relationship. When you add another person into the mix don’t be surprised if they try to take your place.

  3. Jada

    Hi, I’m having problems with trusting my future sugar daddy. Me and him been talking for months and he is married. He say things like I want to get you pregnant and have a child with you and that he want us to live together and that he loves me and how badly he wants my body. I don’t love and I know that I won’t because I heard about sugar babies that get attached and I will not love a man that is married to another woman. I do care for him and I am about to go to college for architect and interior design and lots of he says he wants me to be successful but he always bringing up a child! I don’t want one until j am very successful in my career and I feel sometimes he don’t understand that! He doesn’t have kids of his own but his wife has two. Am I over my head with this one. Should I leave him before I even meet him in person?

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      Taylor Jones

      If you have “NEVER” met him in person. Why are you entertaining him? He wants a child and you don’t. Do you really need to go any further? You already know the answer to that. So why are you entertaining him? He is only a potential prospect that isn’t on the same page as you in terms of what you are wanting. There isn’t a need to waste your time any further.

  4. Shan

    I’ve been having a very happy sugar relationship for about three months now. Recently, his grandmother was in the hospital and he had to fly out for about two weeks. We still kept in contact but for the first 3-4 days of the two weeks, he didn’t reply me at all and I went crazy with worry. He reassured me that he is not going to run away from me because he really likes me a lot.

    He is back in my country now, however, he has blocked me on that chat application. I am unable to contact him because he has blocked me on other channels as well(and I am aware of that because he has told me about it). He still owes me one month’s allowance, which he forgot to transfer because of the whole grandmother issue.

    What do i do now? Do i try to contact him using other means? Or should I just wait it out? I am desperate to talk to him and get an explanation for some closure.

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      Taylor Jones

      There isn’t anything you can do. There are no contracts within this lifestyle. We ONLY trust ACTIONS and his actions is avoiding you.

  5. Rosie

    I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, but I am curious about getting a sugar daddy. I do not want a sexual relationship with them though. Is it possible to have a strictly platonic sugar daddy? If so, how do you show them you are worth the money if you aren’t willing to have sex with them?

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      Taylor Jones

      I have a “platonic relationship” with my Sugar Daddy and I’m in his “WILL” who I was on CNN with. Did you happen to watch that episode “This is Life” with Lisa Ling? It’s available on Netflix too! However, you can listen to my podcast episode “Can a Sugar Daddy Just be Platonic?” via http://thesugardaddyformula.com/itunes or on the episode guide which is episode No.2 Better methods = Better results. If you want to learn my methods than you will want to pick my brain and I can show you how. To see if we would be a good fit in working together you can setup a consult first.

  6. richmarie

    so a good four days ago i went to the bank to start a new account. it was early so i wasn’t feeling very sociable but the banker who i was appointed to seems very interested in me so he asked a lot of questions because he found out about our similar nationality. we clicked really hard because of our love for reggae music but the questions he was asking seemed a little personal but i didn’t mind because it wasn’t anything too deep and he sound really concerned. anyways he gave me his number and told me if ever i need to talk to someone or if i’m in trouble to give him a call. i never had a sugar daddy because i don’t want to get played at my own inexperience game but at the same time i’m really in need of one because of how bad i want to get my own place. the thing is this banker knows that i’m finically irresponsible because of my credit and also how i just quit my job because of the lack of challenge i was receiving from working there. i know real cute right.. anyways i’m going back to the bank tomorrow so that i can pull some money and there is a great chance i might bump into him again. i haven’t called or anything but i would really like to turn him out. help!

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Marie, If you are interested than call him and get to know him. The question becomes: How are you going to turn a man into your Sugar Daddy. Is he Sugar Daddy material? Does he have disposable income in terms of helping the way you want? Is he just the bank teller. Meaning how much does he really earn? You can look up the average bank teller salary to get an idea. In regards to turning him out, if you have never had a Sugar Daddy you will want to learn about this lifestyle more. You have to understand what you are doing and how you are going to position yourself with what you are wanting and that would require having an in-depth discussion with you to see how you will be approaching this.

  7. LadyLove

    I met a guy a few months ago and 3 months after we started seeing each other, he let me move in after I told him I didn’t want to move to shitsticks nowhere to take a job I wasn’t entirely thrilled about. He’s in his 30s & I’m in my 20s – he makes a great living in a tech, he’s socially awkward (4 major relationships in his life – the last one wasn’t even real & was with a married woman in the abusive relationship who has substance abuse problems – they met once IRL. Seriously.), and hasn’t gone out on any dates even though he says he doesn’t see me as a ‘long term’ partner or wife material. I’m not gonna lie, I’m kinda bummed, but it’s whatever.

    I currently take care of the house and help with other things (buying gifts for parties, making travel arrangements, even shopping for an apartment/house for him) and he essentially covers rent and food, since I’m a freelancer & I’m recovering physically from pretty serious illness and family fckry.

    So, rather than let this friendship go to waste, I’m going to take advantage of what we’ve got going and try to shape him into my very first Sugar Daddy. If I called him that he’d probably be super uncomfortable, so I need to be subtle. Do you have any tips for me about turning a previously existing male friendship into a SB/SD situation, even informally?

    My goal is to use his generosity to help fund my business & get me looking hotter and feeling better about myself/my body, so my goals are pretty well-formed. It’s just a matter of technique.

    Thanks!

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      Taylor Jones

      You heard the saying, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” But what you can do is teach him how you want to be treated and that is conditioning him on what you want him to do. So TEACH HIM how to treat you in terms of what you want from him. I would need to have an in-depth discussion with you to have a clear understanding of your connection with him and how he views money to be able to provide a specific approach. But teach him how. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed and in order to get what you want you are going to have to ASK in some capacity. Men aren’t mind readers. So, you’ll have to ask him based on how he communicates, and position yourself based on his perception of you in terms of the request.

  8. Kelsea

    I have been talking to a POT for a couple weeks now. We met on SA and he is doing business in London at the moment, so I haven’t met him yet. However, we talk on the phone and message each other pretty consistently. He has booked a flight to come and see me in a couple weeks and he has already said he wants me to be his SB. We’ve begun talking about an arrangement and he wants to give me an allowance and then take me shopping as part of it, he’s mentioned paying my tuition but I don’t know if that’s too much. The other night he messaged me and said I could do some online shopping and to call him when I had a chance, I was busy so I couldn’t call at the moment and when I finally did (because of the time difference), he was already asleep. Since then we have talked on the phone and messaged but he hasn’t mentioned letting me shop again. Should I bring it up? Or leave it alone and see if he offers again? I was really hoping to shop since I have been talking to him so often and I’ve dropped other POT’s because this one has seemed much more promising. If so, how should I bring it up?
    Thanks!

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      Taylor Jones

      A POT isn’t a Sugar Daddy until it is backed up with his ACTIONS and shown over time. Why the hesitation of bringing it back up is the real question!?! He offered and put it out there. Allow him to prove himself by backing up his ACTIONS. The ONLY rule we live by in this lifestyle is ACTIONS. Only Trust ACTIONS. He can tell you what you want to hear but his words has ZERO value unless he has PROVEN himself. So go ask him already.

  9. Sativa

    I’m somewhat interested in sugaring so I made a profile. I’ve been getting alot of messages and one of them asked me how much I expect per meet. I have no idea what I should say/ ask for.

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      Taylor Jones

      You would want to start by understanding what you are doing. Are you an escort? Are you planning on having sex in exchange for the per meet? Let’s not sugarcoat it and call it what it is, and you are escorting. And if you are planning on going about it that way. I don’t have any advice for you as my tactics are different. Meaning I’m not selling sex to get what I want. So, how much is it worth to you to be doing what you are thinking about doing? If you want to learn my methods you can start with my book and that can serve as your guide.

  10. Kim

    I am new to this but am excited. I have already after a week started talking with a sugar daddy. He has already sent me a beautiful basket with cookies and wine. He lives in Ontario I live in the east a 2 hour plane trip. He asked me do I need anything from him. If I need any financial help to let him know?
    I have yet to meet him. How do I answer that. I thought we should meet first.

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Kim, a closed mouth doesn’t get fed and Sugar Daddies are not mind readers. So, ask yourself what do you want? I can’t possibly know that for you. When I take on a client I go over their goals and what brought them here. After all, you are here for a reason. What is it? And how you navigate this lifestyle will be dependent upon it. What will you be doing to get what you want? Does the person you are corresponding with want to provide you with what you want (that creates the mutual foundation of the arrangement you are forming)? If not, than he will not be a good fit. For example if you are seeking his financial generosity and he only wants to provide you with trinkets to show his appreciation…it will not work. Be upfront with what brought you here and you’ll want to position yourself to that of your target. I teach women to become better saleswoman and by becoming one – a good marketer will know how to package their wants and communicate it to that of the buyer (your Sugar Daddy). Understand your target and position your wants accordingly. After all, why would he want to provide you with what you want? When you can answer that question you will be golden!!

  11. Kadie

    How much is a reasonable amount to ask from a medical professional who’s net worth is 5 million . Meeting 3-4 per month

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Kadie, there isn’t a “reasonable amount to ask.” Why? Because each Sugar Baby determines their own worth and what’s worth it to them on how they are navigating this lifestyle. Are you going to be sleeping with him and are you leveraging sex as your bargaining tool for financial gain. Than let’s just call it what it is and you are in escort territory. Just be upfront with what you are doing and how you are going about it. And if that is the case than how much is it worth it to you to be doing what you are going to be doing. You can’t equate someone’s “net worth” to something you can get. Why would they want to provide you with what you want. When you can answer that question you will be in a different league of Sugar Babies, and become a better marketer. I teach women to become a better saleswoman. After all, there are more of us seeking a man with money vs the other way around.

      So, what’s your value to him to want to provide you with what you want? You have to establish a form of value in the perception of your target. If you are unsure how to navigate this lifestyle perhaps my book can be your guide. How you go about this lifestyle is what you will receive out of it. If selling sex than that’s what it will be. But I don’t sell sex. I create experiences and by doing it that way I am able to leverage my relationships and sustain them for years and my longest one being 12+ (and that’s platonic). If you want me to teach you my methods perhaps we should talk and see if we are a good fit to work together. But don’t sell yourself short if you are doing the same thing that the escort is doing and she is about her money. And if you are not an escort (I’m not implying that you are) than your methods will be different. Better methods = Better results = Getting You what you WANT!

  12. Marina

    I’m negotiating a short term arrangement with a SD who’s coming thru my area for a week. He mentioned shopping and spoiling for that time if we click on first meeting. Is it normal to negotiate a bit of allowance for a short term situation?

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Marina, let’s look at the specifics: He is wanting your companionship for the week. How much is it worth to you to be doing what you are going to be doing? We don’t have to sugarcoat it as it is stepping into escort territory. Just be true to you and okay with how you are going about this. Will you be intimate with him? If so, it’s no different from a courtesan. Don’t sell yourself short. I am not sure what you meant by “clicking on first meeting.” You are not a car in which he can test drive. If you are doing that you are handling yourself as a commodity and you’ll be treated as that. And if that is the case you’ll ask for what you feel as though it is worth to you.

  13. Cassie

    Hi Ms. Taylor, I am extremely curious I’ve been on this Sugar Baby dating site for about over two months and I haven’t had any luck. Out of nowhere this handsome amazing gentleman who is a premium member on the site offered me ‘on the spot’ 10k per month for a weekend each month, my college tuition and an apartment etc. I’m from a foreign country but he says he has no problems flying me out each month but I’m pretty skeptical because we’ve never met etc. How do I go about this with ease and peace of mind?

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      Taylor Jones

      If it sounds too good to be true. It probably is. The ONLY Rule we Live By is ACTIONS. If he can afford 10K have him PROVE it by SHOWING you. He will tell you what you want to hear but let that excitement reflect in his ACTIONS.

  14. Rosie

    Hi! So I’m new to all of this but I have found a POT SD and he seems like the real deal but now i have to address all this stuff i havent had to do before. He wants to do a monthly allowance. How much do I charge per month? Do I also charge per meet up? If I do charge per meet up do I charge more when we have sex? How long should I wait to have sex with him? Should I take cash? Should I take checks? Should I set up a paypal account?? Please help!

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      Taylor Jones

      Rosie are you an escort? If not you will not handle yourself as an escort. Your methods will be different. But if you are having sex in exchange for money it becomes that. We don’t have to sugarcoat it. If you go that route than how much is it worth to be doing what you will be doing? You can only answer that. How you navigate this lifestyle will be what you receive out of it and your own behaviors will dictate your experience. A good guide to help you navigate this lifestyle with figuring out the “other stuff” can be found in my book. After all, I wrote the book for you.

      You have sex when you want to but if you are having sex in hopes of receiving what you want you will have to accept the reality that you are becoming an escort (and they don’t take checks).

  15. Ann

    Hello, I’m new to this and found a sugar daddy quite recently. I am happy with the agreement that he is offering. Monthly allowance, shopping and gifts … Now my problem is that I’m 23 and still live at home with my mother, as a student and a hair stylist I’m not exactly rolling in money at the moment. Coming from a strict and religious upbringing I cannot tell my family and friends that I have a sugar daddy as they will frown upon this and possibly disown me. so when I start getting my Allowance and gifts one that includes a car, how do I explain where and how I got it as they know my current financial situation?

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      Taylor Jones

      You can just tell them that you have a Rich Boyfriend and he likes to show his appreciation with gifts. And that although it’s new that you are not ready to introduce them. Or don’t get the car, or get a car that you can afford to keep you under the radar.

  16. Kimona

    I’ve never had a sugar daddy before however I am keen to the idea. I have been communicating for about a week with a potential SD and he seems very interested and so am I. The issue is, he’s in another country. I don’t have a visa to flight to him (which he is willing to pay) and he seemed quite fine that I wasn’t ready to fly to an unknown place. He now has suggested that he wants to come to my country to see me and has asked what hotel would be good or where I would like to go. mind you, I’ve never stayed in a hotel so I know nothing about how a hotel operates but I do know some good hotels, so I suggested some (which I think I shouldn’t have done) both within my city and outside of it. I;m not sure what I should do in this case, I really want to see him but I don’t want to make the wrong decision but I also don’t want to have him wait to see me in person. Adding to the pressure, He’s also of a different race (He’s white and I’m black) so heads will likely turn.

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Kimona, You put the cart before the horse. Now, if he hasn’t booked anything yet. Than suggest another place that you are familiar with and that it isn’t close to home so that you feel comfortable. And you can always lookup nice hotels that are higher-end that you may have DREAMED of staying at, and now you have your chance. Now, are you planning on staying in the hotel with him? If so, you are putting yourself in a situation to have SEX. There is not sugarcoating that. Do you know what you are getting into and at what cost? If you don’t I highly suggest you read my book to help you understand what you are doing and how to go about it. Just because he is a different race…he is still a person and if you are going to date outside of your race you will have to adopt that mindset and regardless if heads turn it doesn’t matter to you. Why? Because if they are not paying your bills…their opinions doesn’t matter.

  17. terrika

    Hello Taylor. I recently decided to join the sugar baby world three months ago and joined sugardaddyforme.com. I know my profile has failed me due to lack of replies so i’m about to give it a makeover. I’m changing my headline from Seeking Gentleman Daddy to Intelligent Minx. I want to attract a sugar daddy that will not only treat me like a lady but also enjoy both my sweet intelligent side and my flirty minx side. So my question is how do i write a “about me section” targeting these type of guys without it turning into a novel?

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      Taylor Jones

      With your profile the focus isn’t YOU. And although it’s a profile and one would think that it should be about you. But in this world it doesn’t work that way. After all, you are seeking a Sugar Daddy to provide you with what you want. And that means the one who has the MONEY makes the rules and he has what you want and you are replaceable (simple supply and demand).

      It took me years to get my profile writing down until I starting understanding what I was doing. But you will want to learn how to write persuasively and also creatively. I have books to help along the way and it’s there for you as a resource to help you develop your skills (https://thesugardaddyformula.com/resources). You write based on who you are targeting by focusing on your target specifically and pick things about yourself that he can relate to that will resonate with him and feel as though you are the one he is looking for.

      This is a skill you will want to master. Your writing will be the key for everything! It will help you out in the long run. But if all else fails and it still isn’t converting you can check out my profile writing service.

      You will also want to learn how to test your profiles so that you know what areas you NEED to change. The areas to test would consist of your profile pictures, your headlines, the about and seeking sections as well as the locations etc. Small changes – makes a BIG difference.

  18. Gia

    How do you start a sugar daddy relationship with no intimacy, this is my first time being a sugar baby and i’m not sure I want to go that far yet. Help!

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      Taylor Jones

      It STARTS with YOU. How you go about about this lifestyle will be what you receive out of it. Your own behaviors will guide you. If you don’t want to have intimacy than it will be no intimacy, and you will want to convey that via your communication. You have to develop your standards. But most importantly you want to have an idea of how you are planning on navigating this. And if you are not sure which direction to go…perhaps my book can serve as that guide.

      Keep in mind what you want and what a Sugar Daddy will want are two different things. It will be your job to seek out your ideal to find the right one who is okay with what you are seeking and vice versa.

  19. Dietra

    Hi, I wanted to know if I can start the Sugar Baby dating process being on a tight budget?

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Dietra, with anything as the saying goes, “if there is a will there is a way.” But, what it will come down to is how well you can market yourself to attract who you are looking for within the parameters of your budget . Sure you can join a “free” dating site. However, in order to use its features you will have to invest. You can only park your profile for free. But you can start the dating process.

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Brianna, when it comes to determining how much you are seeking that is up to you. However, do you have a suitor that will provide you with what you want? So, the question isn’t if $X amount is too much to ask for. It’s why would a Sugar Daddy want to, and if he has the disposable income to do so. If you are new to this lifestyle and not sure how to navigate it, my book can serve as that guide. Just indicating what you hope to receive is different from actually getting it and what you will do to have to get it. If you are not an escort your tactics/methods will be different.