Lies Sugar Daddies Tell You

“I can’t afford you.”

“Our company just ‘reorganized’… blah blah… uncertainty… blah blah… possible instability… blah blah…”

“I don’t want to feel like I’m buying you.”

“What about me? What do I get if I spoil you?”

“I just want to make sure I’m getting my money’s worth out of the times I see you.”

“Why does it have to be so transactional?”

“I’ve been thinking about it and I’m not sure this whole sugar thing is for me.”

“I will put that in your account this week” Later this week…. “My account has been hacked and bank is looking into it.”

If you’re a Sugar Baby, you’ve heard this or a version of it in response to asking for what you hope to receive out of the relationship.

You start with a feeling of excitement. You are engaging with a Sugar Daddy and equate that to the possibility of having additional money and a better lifestyle!

They ask you about what you want, and that’s when things hit rock bottom…. fast.

Their mouth opens.

They gasp.

And they say, “I can’t afford you.” Or better yet “poof” and they are gone.

I’m here to tell you that they’re lying.

Are there Sugar Daddies in the world that really truly cannot afford you? Yes, and some men are actually hiding behind the role of a Sugar Daddy to get what they want from you and aren’t really Sugar Daddies. But for that one who can afford you and still doesn’t want to give you what you want when he can.

The Sugar Daddies who are truly wealthy that you attract can actually afford you.

They have some disposable income that they can choose to spend on whatever they wish. They make choices on what to spend their money on and indulge in.

So if that’s true, why are they lying to you?

Why don’t they want to provide it to you?

Simply stated, it’s because what you want and desire is not equating to the value you’ve allowed them to perceive of you on their own.

You see, without your focused attention on creating the worth you feel like you deserve, the Sugar Daddy has no choice but to create that worth on your behalf. More often than not, they’ll get it wrong. Grossly wrong.

What’s your value? Nordstrom or Walmart

Some people say that Walmart is where you get the most value for your money. If you’ve ever shopped at Walmart you can go inside and pick up items at a fraction of the cost vs going to another store.

Why would anyone want to pay more when they can save money?

People aren’t picketing outside Nordstrom with signs that say “I can’t afford it.” No, actually, quite the opposite. Nordstrom is known for being quite expensive, but they’re known for their great service. That’s why they can charge the prices they do.

Nordstrom designed its worth very carefully. The company stated it to the world, so that the world couldn’t state it for them.

Sugar Daddies will happily provide you more for his perceived value of you. In fact, you can use the power of your value to increase his generosity.

Each and Every one of you is in the business of selling. Do you know what you are selling?

10 mistakes you may have unintentionally made when not designing your worth:

1. You didn’t figure out your ideal Sugar Daddy (the ones that will value you).

2. You didn’t create a Sugar Daddy Experience to speak to those Sugar Daddies mostly or only.

3. You let the Sugar Daddies define your worth for you. Whenever someone said they couldn’t afford you, you believed them and scrutinized your wants accordingly.

4. You base your worth and what you hope to receive out of the relationship on other Sugar Babies around you, rather than on your own value.

5. You haven’t focused on creating an amazing Sugar Daddy experience, because you spent your time seeking what you can get out of a Sugar Daddy versus positioning yourself to be the one for him.

6. You believe there is something magical about the Sugar Babies who get what they want, and a piece of that magic is something that you’re hard-pressed to obtain.

7. You feel as though what you are seeking isn’t justifiable to why a Sugar Daddy would provide what you are seeking, rather than focusing on exactly what you will actually do if someone provided you with his financial generosity (because part of you feels there aren’t enough Sugar Daddies out there to want to provide you with what you want if you didn’t label yourself a Sugar Baby).

8. Your have a list of expectations to be with you, and you can’t justify it to your potential Sugar Daddy.

9. You have Sugar Daddies who have gave you too little and they are requesting so much, and now you are getting a stampede of Sugar Daddies who are only wanting to give you little to nothing for what they are wanting in return.

10. And lastly, if a Sugar Daddy asked you for what you want, you answered them right away, losing an opportunity to discuss what they wanted (i.e. building more worth through a conversation with them).

As a result of this burning cycle of low worth, there is a sense of overwhelm and lack, rather than a sense of growth and confidence. Want a clear path toward higher worth and getting what you want?

My recommendation is to spend some time thinking about how you might be able to better establish your worth from the onset and manage Sugar Daddies Experiences. If you can align what you are offering your Sugar Daddy with greater value and your ideal Sugar Daddy, you will get what you want and hear the words “I can’t afford you” less and less.

The Lesson: “Why should a Sugar Daddy want to provide you with anything?” It’s not that they can’t afford you. They don’t want to because of how you are coming across. Your value to them is ZERO. It’s all in your approach. Your current approach isn’t working because the current mindset that you have doesn’t allow you to see what you are selling and we are all in the business of selling something to get what we want.

What things are you doing to create a preconceived value inside the minds of your Sugar Daddy? If you haven’t, what are you struggling with? Comment over on the Sugar Baby Advice and I promise to monitor the comments and reply back with some helpful advice.

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Comments 101

  1. Lune

    This was an interesting read, but how do I got about stating my worth? Do you have any insight on that or maybe some examples?
    As always, thank you for existing, I really like your blog!!

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      Taylor Jones

      It starts with what you are looking for and hope to achieve out of the relationship. Not all Sugar Daddies are looking for the same type of relationship that you want, and you are not going to be interested in all Sugar Daddies. You target your ideal Sugar Daddy. Now stating your worth is arrived by your approach and how you are perceived by your potential Sugar Daddy. You approach is how you will position what you want to ask for it. Here is how you can determine your worth by clicking here to give you more insights on cost and worth.

  2. Mrslatina

    I was dating a sugar daddy for the first time, he was very respectful, we laugh, he always told me how much he felt with my company, he told me a lot of personal things about him, also took me to the inside of his house, showed me pics of his kids, but he just wanted a FWB .. one day i just texted him 3 days after our last date to know how he was doing, and he suggested me if i wanted something more than just hook ups to keep looking.. As im new i felt insulted and through the trash out of him, then after that i realized that FWB is actually hook ups… so now i feel bad, and i would like to get him back.. is there anything i can do.. cuz i have to admit i was feeling very good aswell with his company.

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      Taylor Jones

      There is nothing that you can do to get him back unless you want a friends with benefit situation. That’s not what you want. So why waste your time in pursuing? Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies want different things out of the relationship, and to make such a relationship work there has to be common ground with a mutual understanding to the foundation of the relationship in which both parties are happy to providing what each are seeking and in return providing what the other needs and wants. Although he told you personal stuff about him…well, he was acting in the moment and getting comfortable with you so that it doesn’t feel like an awkward situation. He was upfront with what he wanted and if you are wanting the same thing that he wants then reach out to him. After all he left the door open for hookups.

      1. Mrslatina

        I want to have FWB what i dont want is just hook ups.. (for me hook up is just plain sex) how can i explain him i would like our friends w benefits works in a regular basis situation? And how do i set my allowances, cuz i suppose i will have to wait till things cool off little bit or no?

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          Taylor Jones

          You should explain to him what you are looking for just as you have explained here. You can say something along the lines: “I’m seeking an ongoing relationship that is mutual beneficial for us both.”

          The Anatomy of an Arrangement is a tricky subject. You should ask yourself what does an allowance mean to you. After all, if you are just meeting someone…”Why would a Sugar Daddy want to provide you with $X?” They don’t know you. You don’t know them. They don’t trust you. You don’t trust them. You are building a relationship, and you will have to seek out someone who is looking for the same type of relationship you are seeking, and that is an “allowance type” of relationship. But keep in mind if you ask for $X. Be prepared to answer “What am I going to get in return?”

          Just labeling yourself a Sugar Baby doesn’t mean that you will get what you want and that Sugar Daddies will know what you want. They can’t read your mind, and not all Sugar Daddies are alike and that goes for what they will provide when it comes to allowances. The allowance is something you have to come to terms with yourself and nobody can set that for you. So what is it that you are looking for? As how you will go about getting what you want will set the foundation of what experience you will get out of this lifestyle.

  3. Nicole star

    My problem is that I have a hard time thinking what of what to say. I Know what I want. I’m just to scared to tell them the amount or how to say it.

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      Taylor Jones

      Always remember: A Sugar Daddy Can’t READ Your Mind.

      Now, what that means: You have to be able to communicate with him.

      If you don’t ask you don’t get. Reread that. Without even knowing what to say…just by “asking” you increased your odds of getting what you want to at least 50%. Why? Because if you didn’t ask you are at ZERO, and just by asking you increased your odds. Why are you scared? You have to address that before moving on to anything else. Don’t hold yourself back from asking because he might say no. If you don’t ask than you are wasting your time. Why waste time?

      Nobody likes rejection. I get it. I hate it, but rejection can become your best friend. So embrace it. Think of rejection as: You didn’t get what you want because you didn’t set up your approach correctly and you keep on improving until you find the right approach.

      So, how do you go about asking.
      The simple process: Understand each potential Sugar Daddy is different. What are his triggers? His “hot buttons.”, What type of relationship is he seeking? (Are you the right one for him and are you willing to provide him what he is looking for to get what you want?) Have you established a connection? Now you have a foundation to setup what you want when you have that information. Because it’s not just “how do you say it”…It’s understanding your target to say it in his language.

      To ask: Know what you want. Understand your target. Position what you want based on your target personality. Get him to offer what you want (*If it’s an “allowance.” An allowance takes on different parameters.) And ask by having an open discussion to talk about the relationship.

      Your value is in the connection otherwise he will base what you are asking to determine if what you want is worth it to him, and it would not be about you.
      If you would like specific strategies to you…please reach out and I can provide options on how I can help you.

  4. Girlnextdoor

    I have had three dates and my SD helped me out of a sticky car situation but mentioned that he normally doesn’t do things that fast… We made a mutual agreement that we would be exclusive. He says that he is going to help me, but we haven’t really discussed monetary worth of how he plans to help. I don’t know how to bring it up!

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      Taylor Jones

      Don’t be fearful of losing a Sugar Daddy by bringing it up. It’s expected. Otherwise he will just give you what he wants to give you. So, ask him, “In what way are you going to help me? AND ask him, “How much are you going to assist me with your financial generosity?”

      You see you missed a BIG step in discussing this prior to “agreeing on being exclusive.” After all what are you agreeing to? The hopes of something but you don’t know what that is. You need to know. So, ask. You might find out that what you are thinking is completely different from how he “actually” sees the relationship going. In order for it to be mutual both of you need to be on the same page and right now you aren’t.

  5. Cruiser

    How to price yourself to your Sugardaddy:
    You are not a pro and you’ll scare away the best/coolest Sugardaddies if you act like one.
    Do some research and figure out how much a hot escort gets in your region. 500/hr? Set that as your weekly starting point and tell your Sugardaddy that you want 2K/month.
    How to tell him? If you get along and can talk well with him this will just come up easily. If it’s difficult to bring up this subject then you and your potential SugarDaddy do not have chemistry. Drop him and find the next man. Or take a gamble and bring it up if you think he’s a great catch!

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      Taylor Jones

      By asking for what you are looking for. So, ask yourself, “What is it that you want?”

      You are on a site that is for married people seeking connections. The game changes for married men. You are the mistress, the side piece…whatever you want to call it. So, just ask for what you want. Because you already know your place.

  6. Nancy

    My SD is pulling away. We never had a formal discussion about our arrangement prior to hooking up. He told me he would take care of me and we never discussed the details. I was afraid to discuss it too because this was my first SD SB relationship and I didn’t want it to feel transactional. Anyhow we’ve had some issues about sex and money. He felt I wasn’t keeping up with my part of the arrangement (the sex). We weren’t having as much sex and there wasn’t a whole lot of excitement. I thought we were more in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship where he wanted to take care of me but whenever I asked for money he seemed to get uncomfortable about it and it was probably because I was so uncomfortable asking too. He’s mentioned a few times he wanted to break it off but I don’t. I’ve developed feelings for him and I need the money. He said he would continue to help me but says he can’t give me the allowance I require. I’m wondering if I can save this relationship and get more money and make it worth his while. I need him to trust me and give me more money. Can this relationship still be saved or should I move on?

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      Taylor Jones

      Why do you want to save a relationship in which you aren’t getting what you want? You already gave yourself sexually (he is getting what he wants), and yet you feel uncomfortable with asking for what you want!?! I would feel uncomfortable with getting used. There isn’t much to salvage if he is putting you at a distance. You can’t make a connection without the cooperation of the other.

  7. Jinx1993

    So can you be a sugar baby without sex if so how do you go about it, and letting a sugar daddy know that’s where you draw the line?

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      Taylor Jones

      Yes, you can. You are talking with someone who has. Did you see me and my Co-star (SD Rich) on CNN. He’s 100% platonic and there is nothing sexual about our relationship. You cultivate relationships and build connections. What you want and what another person want is two different things. You have to be upfront if you are seeking him on a SD dating site, but it’s how you go about it. The method you use and how you approach this makes a difference. Your job is to seek out someone who is looking for the same as you and positioning yourself into their life. Your connection is your value and you teach someone how to treat you. If you want to learn how we should talk.

      1. cloud9

        I want to know aswell. that’s my downfall my approach. I’m the good girl this sweet girl. but I want to be that ferocious woman that I am on the inside and get what I want and deserve by being upfront and honest. I have no clue on how to do that without sounding to business like.

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          Taylor Jones

          You can be a sweet girl navigating this lifestyle. You just have to understand how to go about using it to your advantage. This is something that can be learned. In order to get what you want you need the cooperation of the other person. By being upfront and honest, that tactic isn’t going to communicate to another to want to do those things for you. Although you have no clue now, what things can you do to start learning. What has worked well for me, is learning from others. I’m no strangers to coaches. But you can start with understanding where you are and finding the right information to help you get to that next level. If you sound business like. What can you do to not sound like it based on your current method? I would need to have an in-depth conversation with you to understand your current methods. What I teach my clients and you’ll often here me say, “Turn strangers into friends, and ask friends for what you want.”

  8. Maya

    Unlike most women on these sites, I enjoy the company and touch of older men. I’d like a sugar daddy who can provide a gf/bf relationship including sex, but also lots of spoiling and financial help… How do I evoke a desire- for him, to want to help me? How do I use “sugar baby allure” without sounding cheesy or coached?

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      Taylor Jones

      Maya, I would need to have an in-depth conversation to understand how you are going about navigating this. Are you ready to talk to me to see how I can hep you? Go here. And we can see about working together so that I can understand you allure that you are wanting to use. Because I don’t know your “unique sugar baby allure” to guide you in any direction. You use it based on your target and understanding what triggers him to be able to position yourself.

  9. Sophie

    Thank you for your article! I’ve been sugering quite some time now, I had a great sugardaddy from NY that recently ended. I’m back on the website, but my biggest problem is to know who’s serious or not. Because I spend a lot of time, trying to get to know someone, and then they turn into being a man who doesn’t want to do a mutual benefit relationship. All they want to do is to find the girl they get the most value out of their money. After some nice meetings and I could feel the chemestry they usually suggest taking it to the ”next level”. By that, they wanna know how much they can get me in bed for. They don’t wanna pay you more than what they could get a hooker in Thailand for. Then they say ”oh, but in Thailand I could get anal, advanced cum play and four hours play for that amount of money”. They keep comparing me to prositutes. I loose all interest. I don’t want to have a sugar daddy who pays for sex. And I feel so bad for spending so much of my energy and time to talking to someone who’s not serious. How do you know if someone is a REAL sugardaddy?

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      Taylor Jones

      You know based on their ACTIONS. Always trust actions. It’s the only rule we live by within this lifestyle. You need to have a better screening process/method to save you time. If you are wanting to see how I can help you with screening someone based on what you are looking for we should talk.

  10. Monica

    I had my first date, he paid drinks,food and start holding my hands almost glued to me and telling me all kind of things now he is inviting me to his place for dvd and some dinner… Is that a good start? Shall a SB give herself before she receive anything or ask for something first ? Thank You

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      Taylor Jones

      Well, although you went on a date. Did you work out the particulars on discussing the arrangement? Does he even want the same type of relationship as you? Does he want to provide you what you want? Has he proven himself to you? Now, you are spending your time without having anything in place. How you go about this lifestyle is what you receive out of it. If you let him guide the relationship and you follow. You will get what he provides you if anything. You’ll start the relationship based on what he is doing for you. If he isn’t doing anything. There isn’t anything in place. And your are just getting to know each other. Now, by going back to his place. He will want sex. Do you want sex? If not, why would you place yourself in a position in which that is where it will lead. My book will help you navigate this lifestyle better and serve as your guide to properly set up your relationships to avoid getting used. You should read it. After all I wrote it for you. The ONLY rule we live by in this lifestyle is shown by their ACTIONS. If he has proved himself and you find him to be a keeper of his word. And you want to go back to his place that is up to you. But if you haven’t set the foundation to the relationship or if he hasn’t proved himself to you than reevaluate how you are going about this. Keep in mind you are not a car in which he can test drive. You are the prize. Make him earn it, and want to do things for you. Not the other way around.

      1. Vicky

        I am a new SB had my 1st date after 1 year of being on the site SA. I am struggling to understand how a wife would be okay with another woman as I don’t want to be a homewrecker… Plus I don’t know if I should ask for an allowance. He asked what was my goals in life I told him (he offered to give me a job with his company). Should and how to bring up financial help topic. But would like your keen insight and views. I really am confused.

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          Taylor Jones

          Why are you here? Think about that. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed, and you are going to have to ask for what you want. And I have tactics that can help via my Sugar Lab to help hone your skills when it comes to asking. Because it’s going to take more than having a right combination of words. And there are things that lead to asking in which it will be based upon how you are setting the foundation to these special relationship to begin with. As of right now, you are trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together without having a clear picture of what the puzzle looks like and that can leave you confused.

          Now, he’s married. And you are unsure about asking for an allowance. Why? You know your place with the married man. Do you think he will hesitate with asking for what he wants from you, he won’t. You are here for a reason, and luckily for you there’s a resource that I have for you to stop shooting arrows in the dark when you don’t have to. You can read about it here. In order to navigate this lifestyle you have to have a better understanding of what you are doing and what you are going to have to do to get what you want. Majority of the men you will come across are married. Be honest with yourself. You might not want to be a homewrecker, but do you honestly believe that wifey is okay with it?!? Did she tell you? I’m going to go out on the limb and say NO. You only have the information someone gives you. If you are not wanting to entertain the married man, DON’T. Because you will never know the truth of the situation. And if you need to have them say, “Wife is okay with it,” than that will be that so it makes you feel as though you are not wrecking someones marriage. I must ask though, Do you really care if he is married because from the situation you have entertained him and now asking what you can get out of him. Just be upfront with yourself. I’m no judger. Just ask for what you want. If you are seeking an allowance than that is what you want. It’s a matter of finding someone who is okay with providing you with it. And if you want an approach/methods of asking, perhaps we should talk or access my book bundle and grab my copy of “How to Ask for what you want” to assist you fine tuning your approach.

  11. Spagirl

    Shall we talk about older women as in 52 years SB…what to expect? Are there SD’s interested in this group of women? If you have an tips to commence pursuit or what to expect.. I would love to learn.

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      Taylor Jones

      The TRUTH: Do you feel like you can be a Sugar Baby? Seriously. Let’s examine that. Because if you don’t believe it than why would a Sugar Daddy want to be with you? After all a Sugar Daddy is still a “man” and YOU as a Sugar Baby is still a “woman.” What’s the point of being a woman if you don’t use it to your advantage?

      It depends on how well you can market yourself to attract a Sugar Daddy. We are ALL selling something. You just need to know what you are selling and have a prospective buyer. As we get older as women there is a preconceived notion that older women don’t like to have fun anymore and get stuck in their ways, haven’t kept their upkeep of themselves, and lack of intimacy too. It will come down to your perception and how you are going to go about targeting a Sugar Daddy.

      By being older your approach is different in attracting a Sugar Daddy as you aren’t leading with your looks as you once had, but all is not lost. It’s just how you going to go about attracting him and changing your approach. Can I teach you. Yes. Ready for a consult (1-on-1). If not, I’ll be doing upcoming workshops about it and you’ll be notified via my emails that I send out.

  12. Missy B

    So I met this handsome Nigerian man one day while I was at work. He came to my job a couple of times…we had connected and he ended up asking me out. He took me out on a really nice, expensive date. He’s established and owns a couple of businesses. He makes comments about traveling and doing things. We have established that neither of us was really looking for a relationship at the moment but more so a friendship. We have been physical and really enjoy each others company..he doesn’t live around here and was just visiting when I met him. He’s not as available as I would like him to be but I admire that he’s a hard worker.. We still talk on the regular and when I text him he always get back to me. I know my place so I don’t question the issue but my question is how do I know if he really likes me? & what’s the best way of going about asking for financial help w/o sounding needy?

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      Taylor Jones

      Oh my Missy B., You gave up the cookies without getting what you want. If you enjoy each others company than it’s a win-win for both. What’s the value to him to “now” want to give you what you want? Nothing. You know your place and when he wants you again he’ll reach out. But now you want something. You have to ask. It’s not like he is doing anything for you now. And if he doesn’t help you would you still want him around? If not, than you wasn’t being genuine to begin with and was using intimacy to lure him in to get you what you want. I’m sure if he didn’t like you he wouldn’t respond to your period. You can test his generosity by putting a situation out there that you need help and see what he will do. He might not be the type to want to provide financially on an ongoing basis, but you won’t know unless you ask.

  13. Della

    Hi my name is della I’ve met a guy at my job at the airport couple days ago we got to talking he seemed like he like me and I think you have a nice guy he was selling about how he wants to help me, and take me to places I’ve never been before so everything was going great until he started telling me about how he wants me to have a child for him he only have one daughter and he want more kids I’m only 23 years old and he looks like it’s only 55 or something I’m not interested in a sexual relationship with him at all I don’t want to have a baby by a man that I am NOT truly in love with i was wondering if there’s any way that I can keep my relationship with him without the sex part and to get him to still hold on to his promises with are taking me to bed I would love any suggestion that you will make you have

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Della, if what he is presenting isn’t what you are wanting, than why waste your time? You will either just try to use him and take what you can get and leave when he really wants SEX. And in this case you are dangling the carrot in front of him. That carrot is SEX. You are now playing with his emotions. If the shoe was on the other foot and you was the guy. Would you give the woman what she wants because she wants it. We all know the answer to it. No. Why? There is no reason to. He is only saying those things because he may like you, but he can also be saying those things in hopes of what you will do to get it. The ONLY rule we live by in this lifestyle is: TRUST ACTIONS.

  14. Corinne

    I have a sugar daddy, we agreed on a certain price per meet up but when allowance time came he gave me less than that. How do I address it?

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      Taylor Jones

      Something is worth what someone is willing to pay for. Unless you can mentally justify your worth to him, he is giving you what he feels (even after you discussed it). You may have heard the saying, “Money is best saved in your pocket”. A lot of women have a stigma with asking for what they want and even talked about because they fear the other person will walk away. You’ll want to ask yourself, “How does it feel to agree on something only to have that person not fulfill their end?” Considering you are fulfilling yours. It doesn’t feel good does. You kinda feel used and cheated, right? And that doesn’t make for a happy Sugar Baby.

      When you negotiate you are going to have to leverage something that is of value. If you don’t have that leverage, you don’t have room for negotiation. The supply and demand is off. Meaning there are more women seeking men with money vs the other way around (you can be replaced easily).

      The question isn’t how you are going to address it. After all, you can just ask him directly, since you already discussed it. What it will come down to is conveying your perceived worth and making him want to provide it to you. I can help you with that. Want a plan to get the rest of the agreed amount? We should talk here (pick my brain without the commitment).

      1. gold

        hey dear, I had almost similar issue , mine was worst . as I young single mum , I felt he should have done more for me despite my class and level which he no. hes my first sugar daddy , he promised to make it up to me but nothing is happening .I felt used and cheated, I think I ve lost a lot ever since I meet him .my gold waist chain worth $1000 plus was broken in the process of making out with me , which I finally lost in the hotel room the next morning , I left my investment and corporate job just thing he will finance a project I told him about , which he promised he will do .things kept going wrong , I later asked him for some cash to clear bills , which he neglected and never read my message . I feel so bad . I wanna act in a very rude way by publishing the issues on media if he did pay a sum . needed your advice

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          Taylor Jones

          The question now becomes: Do you want to invest more time on him? Meaning, devoting more time emotionally. What will you gain? Nothing. What happened, has happened. You can’t get your time back and although he made “promises”…well words alone are not guaranteed. We ONLY live by one rule in this lifestyle. That is: TRUST ACTIONS.

          So, ask yourself. Why did you do the things you did? Why did you keep on doing things, when he couldn’t keep his promises?

          I know it doesn’t feel good to be used and taken advantage. I have been there. I allowed myself to be in a position to be used. I was doing things in hopes of receiving things and acting in a way that didn’t make sense because I wanted my situation to change. By doing so it allowed me to be oblivious to what was really happening. I was being used. I allowed myself to be used because of what I was hoping to receive out of it (even after broken promises because I invested in giving myself and the time I put in).

          Instead of feeling bad. It’s a lesson learned. You did all those things because you hoped he was who he portrayed himself to be. Because you hoped you would receive something out of it. You left your job because you wanted to leave. You spent time with him because you felt as though you would get something out of it. Our own actions guide our behavior. You would want to fuel that energy and put it back into yourself and getting you to where you need to be. However, you can take this experience as a learning one and what not to do. You gambled on him and you lost that bet. Just take this as a loss, and move on.

  15. Sandy

    I just started dating a sugar daddy and he wants to only spend money on manicure and pedicure and hair how do I get him to start spending on clothes and shoes . He has told me he wants me to go away with him in July

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Sandy,

      Have you asked him to buy clothes and shoes? That’s a start. He’s not a mind reader. And if you take what he provides, he will consider what he is doing is okay with you.

      If you need a guide on asking for what you want. My book: How To Ask For What You Want can help and be that guide.

      But please consider what you are doing and giving up to get those things. Reread that and reread that again. People will take advantage. Is what you are giving up worth the cost of a mani-pedi? I’m sure you are worth a lot more. If you don’t know how to convey you worth, and put those mani-pedis aside and use this lifestyle to build your wealth and change your LIFE. We should talk.

      If we hop on the phone together, I can guide you through decisions about building wealth using your Sugar Daddy’s financial generosity, growing passive income, and creating an exit strategy to make sure your future self is taken care of. Here’s how.

  16. kiowa

    so I’m an newly SB nd my SD is accountant and he owns his own business , and we been texting since, feb22, he made plans with me for Friday, and idk he haven’t texted me since yesterday but he said he works on the clock hours and sometimes ends work at midnight, so idk do you think am overthinking this situation b/c he haven’t texted me since yesterday, plus he’s going on a Europe trip in march and he said he’s gonna get me some things from there,
    so what are your thoughts.

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      Taylor Jones

      Are you in a Sugar Relationship or not? That is the question.

      We ONLY live by ONE rule and that is TRUST ACTIONS. What has he done for you? If he hasn’t done anything for you. You can’t claim him as your “Sugar Daddy” but he is just a potential and you are working on an arrangement. If you met him on a Sugar Daddy dating site, you have to understand that men are like kids in a candy store. They get distracted easily. Even the busiest person will make time. His focus isn’t on you. You’ll either become a passive Sugar Baby and always wait for someone to make a move. Or you take an active approach to always stay on the mind of your Sugar Daddy and guide him in a direction of taking action. Sure we can speculate but it’s in his actions that he is showing. Do you have my book? (Amazon) It will help put things in perspective.

  17. Chis

    I met my sd by accident. That day we had a date and he asked me whether i can do business that he can provide half of the capital for me since i have not gotten a job after my education but that day i did not make up my mind to date him because he is my first SD. We keep chating but about a week later i told him that i have accepted to date him without prior knowledge of arrangement and allowance. We never discussed arrangement and allowance and he invited me over to his hotel room we had sex, and he gave me 10, 000 naira and anytime we meet he gives me 10’000 naira. The last time we meet i reminded him of the money he promised me for the business but he responded that he will plan for that. This man is wealthy and i need like 200k from him. Please what can i do for my SD to provide me with this money without disappointing me?

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      Taylor Jones

      When it comes to asking for what you want, you have to understand your target and understand his perception of you. By doing so it will help with framing how you will approach asking him. You “reminded” him of the money he promised, but it didn’t get you what you wanted. He has already given you money and now you are having sex with him. What benefit would he have to provide you with money for your business? It’s not a priority for him to provide you with the money for your business. If you would like my help in working together to come up with approaches to get him to provide you with the money. You can hop on the phone with me and we can discuss. Here’s how: https://clarity.fm/taylorjones

  18. Celine Celine

    It’s my first time to have a sugar daddy, he’s a good looking, less than 40 years old guy who’s in a relationship with someone else. We discussed all the arrangement well before meeting each other, and chose to date in a hotel room. But when he arrived, he said he’ll be very busy for personal stuff so we didn’t go to hotel, and went shopping and having a good chat instead. He told me that it’s hard to find a sugar baby because of his schedule, and luckily I’m the first one able to be dated. Although it was just less than 3 hours, he still gave me pocket money. Afterwards we kept texting and flirting, and he told me that he actually liked to have sex with me at the moment and asked if I would fall in love with him for several times.

    And last week we decided to date in hotel room again, but the day before the date, I told him that I liked him very much even though I didn’t take his question that serious. Suddenly, he became so cold, mentioned his girlfriend and said he’ll be busy for work and unable to see me. Next day I was alone, and texted back to explain that I was just kidding, but no response till now.

    So here are my few questions,

    1) In your opinion, did he really like me went we first met?

    2) Is he really avoiding me because of my careless joke? Or just busy for work?

    3) Since it’s really hard to find a gentle and generous guy in Hong Kong, I don’t wanna lose him so soon! Is there any way to get his heart back? Or no need to do anything and just wait for his request of dating?

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      Taylor Jones

      Hey Celine, You are the “other woman.” When and if he wants to see you again, he’ll reach out. If you take on that role, you have to know your place. He was seeking someone to fulfill what he isn’t getting in his existing relationship. You did that because you fit into his schedule. Don’t lose sight of that. Don’t sell yourself short. If you hop on a phone call with me, we can analyze your Sugar Baby Strategy together. We can decide how you can navigate the Sugar Baby Lifestyle to effectively get you the results you are looking to achieve. A 15-30 minute call with me can potentially spare you from several thousand in missteps. Here’s how: https://clarity.fm/taylorjones

  19. Lexnosex

    i want a sugar daddy but without sex. I’m making my profile and i jus don’t know what to say to them to start

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