Sugar Babies: Are You Letting Failure Stop You In Your Tracks?

I had a friend who looked to be a promising Sugar Baby. She was bright, witty, intelligent, and classy – all the characteristics Sugar Daddies look for. She had a good head on her shoulders, and she was prepared to do the work to find her perfect Sugar Daddy.

She thought she found him – but after a few dates, when she tried to discuss financial arrangements with him, he shot her down.

Thanks to this rejection, she immediately withdrew from the Sugar Baby world – and it took her a long time to work up the strength to dive back in again.

Why am I telling you this? For one simple reason: too many Sugar Babies let themselves get thrown off by Sugar Daddy rejection. They think that failure is a bad thing, and that they’ll never be the best Sugar Babies they want to be.

However, this is exactly the wrong way to approach Sugar Baby failure. In fact, I want to point out that failure should be planned for and even eagerly anticipated. I know that if I haven’t been rejected by a few Sugar Daddies in my past, then I haven’t done enough to truly learn on my Sugar Baby journey.

The bottom line is that rejection is a normal part of the Sugar Baby process. Expect it. Manage it. Own it.

The trick is to prepare for failure before you even get rejected. Think of it as applying to college: you wouldn’t just apply to your dream college and hope for the best, would you? Of course not. You’d spread out your options.

And that’s exactly what you need to do with Sugar Daddy dating. Don’t pin all your hopes on one man right in the beginning. You hold the cards. You have the power. Date as few or as many Sugar Daddies as what makes you feel comfortable. That way, should you encounter rejection, you’ll already have a horde of other Sugar Daddies waiting to make you feel like the queen you are.

Whining and bashing the Sugar Daddy who rejected you is a great way to get stuck in the cycle of failure. It’s just another way of protecting your ego – and there’s no way you can possibly learn what you need to learn to become your best Sugar Baby possible.

It’s easy to get angry at rejection.

It’s easy to get sad about rejection.

But it’s also easy to come up with a Plan B for rejection – and that’s exactly where my above advice comes into play.

So what would you rather do: let failure knock you down, or eagerly learn from the experiences to become the best Sugar Baby possible?

I think the answer to that question is clear.

How have you used rejection to improve your Sugar Daddy dating experience?

Post your question below

Comments 14

  1. Candi Harris

    I can relate to this post. I have had rejection and I have rejected some potential SD’s. The rejection just made me want to learn more and get my priorities, goals and dreams in perspective. I take the rejection as a lesson and use it as fuel to get the SD I deserve and who is happy to find a SB like me.

  2. Jezebel LeFleur

    If at first your don’t succeed, try, try again. I try to pin point where I went wrong and then formulate a new strategy in order to obtain better results the second time around.

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    Taylor Jones

    Wouldn’t it be nice if the Sugar Daddy that did “reject” us actually tell us why they did instead of playing the disappearing act. Hmm, I will have to test this out.

    1. Jezebel LeFleur

      Haha! I would actually LOVE to know what made them lose interest in me. Too bad the websites don’t have a drop down menu with a list of options lol

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    2. First Time Sugar Baby

      My potential sugar daddy brought me to the city, and he was my first potential sugar daddy, and then the next day, he seem like he is going to put me into another hotel because everything was booked. He deserted me at the hotel that he never booked me in with an excuse that his father was in the hospital. He never got ahold of me ever from there, and I was in survival mood. I am so happy that I received 300 .00 from my second potential sugar daddy to get back home. The first potential sugar daddy disappeared on me with no help or nothing. Everyone says I am gorgeous, I am sophisticated. But maybe it’s because I did not give my cookie to him. Wow! Any advice Taylor for not letting that happen again? That was a shock! I was crying my eyes out infront of everyone. It was such an embarrassing moment.

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        Taylor Jones

        Oh no. You want to take a step back and STOP. And reassess how you are going about this entirely. I am unsure of how you are navigating this lifestyle to begin with, but safety is your number ONE concern ALWAYS. Anytime you travel you want to make sure you can get back home and also verify that arrangements have been made and paid for. Get them to provide you with the funds to book the hotel and cover the funds upfront so that you feel secure in the event if it doesn’t work.You can also have the person visit you first. The ONLY thing you can TRUST in this Lifestyle is ACTIONS. A Sugar Daddy can tell you what you want to hear but their words means $0.00.

  4. Shawna Temple

    Interesting. I used to wonder what went wrong and belabor it. The whole “autopsy of a relationship” deals from Oprah. But this point, I give it a good thought and then move on, I know that the perfect arrangement is one where my SD accepts me. Not me being something completely different. Certainly, there are types of sugars and tweaking is ok but a complete 3 faces of eve deal is not where I’m coming from.

    The way I see it is ” if you don’t like it dont look”

    T

  5. kay

    I had a gentlemen read my profile and request to view my photos and to send them to a personal email site. When I sent them he did not respond. I asked if he received them. He said, yes but I am not for him. He said nice things about them but did not tell me what in my pictures. They were pictures taken from my phone and tablet. No make-up or nails. Should I put on make up false nails and the works and then take a photo.

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      Taylor Jones

      Not everyone will be attracted to you, and you will not be attracted to everyone. Some people don’t even respond back if they are not interested. You can test it by “dolling yourself up” to see if people respond differently to know if that is going to make a difference.

  6. Karen

    Hi Taylor…I need a strategy session with you on how to fix my relationship …how do I arrange this?

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      Taylor Jones

      Hi Karen, this is where you would want to start: http://sugar-baby-strategy-session.thesugardaddyformula.com/ However it’s a consult and via the strategy session we go over your current methods and what you hope to achieve and discuss what’s going on and I explain the ways that I can help. Plus the deposit will go towards a coaching package/service. For an actual coaching call: http://sugar-baby-coaching-call.thesugardaddyformula.com/ you can pick my brain for 1-hr plus other Sugar Goodies you’ll get. But it seems like you know what you need and if so email me and I can customize something for you specifically if you have a Sugar Daddy about to go AWOL and you need to repair it with a quickness.

  7. Belinda

    The reason why I have completely thrown in the towel is I’ve been rejected, ignored and mistreated. On the odd occasion I would make arrangements with a potential SD, they would give me the cold shoulder or lie to me.
    Recently I deleted 2 profiles because of the never ending misery.

    Physically I’m not hideous or an introvert, however this has put me off entirely. Don’t know WHAT I’ve done wrong.

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      Taylor Jones

      Just because it’s not working for you doesn’t mean that attracting a SD online doesn’t work. It simply means that methods of how you have been approaching this isn’t working. And in order to change something you have to do something different. It’s kind of like picking up a book that will teach you to become rich. Why doesn’t everyone who read the same book get rich? You only know what you know, and if you are seeking out all the free information you can find. Well, how much value can you place on free if that is your go-to guide. And you can base it on the results that it has gotten you. You can pick up some books and look at other peoples methods. Test them, apply them and test them again.

      You can consult with someone to assist you with working with a person (even the best of the best have coaches). Now, perhaps you are not cut out for this lifestyle and throwing in the towel is a viable option. At least you are not wasting anymore of your time and it can be spent elsewhere. But be honest with yourself on how you have been approaching this and just because you signed up to a dating site and had a profile up doesn’t mean you packaged yourself in the right way. And it doesn’t mean that you will find a SD that will provide you with what you want. A dating site gives you an opportunity to meet someone. That’s it. It’s up to you to stand out. It’s up to you to market yourself to attract someone. It’s up to you to weed through the fake and determine who is real. So what are you doing? Oh, yes you deleted your profile. Now if you are serious, and you would like to see how I can help you maybe we should talk. I have a biased for results.

      And we all get rejected. I am sure you have rejected people you weren’t interested in too and have given someone the cold shoulder. It doesn’t mean you are not someone who isn’t worthy. It just means that the person you are interested in isn’t interested in you.

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