Crafting The Initial Perfect Message To Send First

When it comes to online dating, there is one question that every Sugar asks:

“What can I do to get more responses to my initial messages?”

Are you thinking that….

Because getting responses from the men who interests you is the biggest hurdle you will face.

Sugar Daddy dating online is a numbers game where more responses from men you like equal more dates. And the step in the direction of a possible arrangement.

The first step to increasing the number of messages flowing through your inbox is to figure out what prompts him to respond.

Two things to know why someone would respond back: messages that stand out and encourage a response (i.e. they appear to be original, and they contain a question).

For this reason, the key to an increased response rate is the crafting of the right initial message that gets him responding.

IMPORTANT: your profile and your pictures have to be top notch. Think about it, if someone sends you a message…you want to see who it’s from. You will respond if you find his profile appealing and if he is visually appealing to look at.

If you can write a message that catches his attention, pique his curiosity, and leaves him wanting more with a creative question, then you’ll have him responding no matter the circumstances.

First off, let’s look at some of the Do’s and Don’ts of that first message:

  • Don’t just say “Hey there”, “Hi”, or ask him “What’s up?” or lead with some line like “How you doing’?” A large percentage of the messages sent are some variation of those.
  • Don’t write him a book (or copy and paste your profile). Please don’t outline everything you are looking for to see if you are on the same page of having an arrangement. He doesn’t have time to read it, and you don’t have time to write it. (At least that’s what you want him to think.)
  • Don’t talk about the arrangement in terms of what he is willing to part with for an allowance. He doesn’t even know if he likes you.
  • Don’t mention taking things off the site right away. This creates unnecessary pressure if he isn’t interested yet. And he’s not ready to buy what you’re selling yet, so don’t go for the close right off the bat.

If you’re feeling a little discouraged because you’re the one who is doing all those things, don’t worry. It’s time to change your approach, and elevate your game with these simple strategies:

  • Do use flirty humor. Think Marilyn Monroe. Make him smile.
  • Do make it easy to read. Break up your message into multiple paragraphs and use correct grammar.
  • Do ask creative but easy-to-answer questions. You want him to have fun responding, but if he has to think too much, he won’t put in the work.
  • Do give compliments but in an ambiguous way.

For example:

You seem direct and straightforward, which I appreciate in a man. Knowing what he wants is extremely sexy and what’s even sexier is the right playmate on his arm.

It’s nice to find someone with a sense of humor and adventure. That’s not something easy to come by around here…

The key here is to stand out from all the other messages in his inbox. A message that catches his attention has a much better chance of success.

Now that you understand the basic rules, you can start crafting your own messages.

The first step is doing away with any negative feelings you have toward the “cut and paste”system. It is a great way to optimize your success, so you might as well get on board.

Once you zone in on the focus of why you are here and what you are attempting to do…tune into your Sugar Baby Spidey Senses (yes Sugar Baby + Spiderman = Awesome Superpowers) and focus on testing your material.

I recommend having a few openers in your arsenal:

  • One-size-fits-all openers
  • Situational openers

When constructing a one-size-fits-all opener, the goal is to have something in your arsenal you can send to any Sugar Daddy who catches you piques your interests.

It should be personal enough that he thinks you’ve read his profile, but not so specific that you can’t use it for any occasion.

Example #1

I had the chance to read your profile, and I have to admit, I’m impressed. It’s nice to finally find someone with a little creativity, depth & knows what he wants. It’s a rarity around here. But I’m dying to know about your sense of adventure, so tell me this: If you played hooky from work and you were to take off in the next hour, where would we go?

As you can see, it begins with a small compliment implying you might be interested. And don’t be afraid to let him know he stands out against the crowd. (Remember, you’re in the driver’s seat and you are looking for your ideal SD) Finally, finish with a question that’s fun to think about and isn’t too complicated. This is the most important part of the message.

For situational openers, you are targeting men with whom you share an interest. Traditional sites have more of an advanced search, but you can look at several SD’s profile to find a common theme of interests (we are more alike than you know). Find the common interests and make a connection with it to craft messages.

Example #2

I see that we share an interest in [Insert the interest], But tell me this, [insert something about it that makes it appear as you know something about it – and ask a question]?

This kind of message begins by pointing out a mutual interest, and then asks a question geared toward the topic at hand. Give him a chance to talk about himself a little bit.

Messages like these are the key to success in the online dating world, and saving you time.

And once you’ve built a small repertoire, you can start testing them out. Send the same message to 20+ different men and keep track of your results. For the ones that flop, don’t worry about it.

Weed out the underperformers and focus on sending the winners more often.

You can also come up with similar but different variations of your winners to see if you can tweak your way to even more success.

It’s always better to invest your time in the beginning by coming up with a few killer messages, instead of wasting hours for weeks on end customizing each one.

Once you’ve come up with a handful of winners, you’ll be glad you followed this advice as you sit back and watch the responses roll in.

As you can see by now, crafting the perfect online dating opener isn’t about thoroughly reading every profile and painstakingly creating message after message for each man that you like.

It’s about finding a message that works, and using it again and again. RINSE & REPEAT!

Sugar Daddy dating is a numbers game and if you follow the strategies, you’ll start to see those numbers flock in your direction.

Don’t sit on the sidelines waiting to be found. Go get him!