What is a label?

A label is an intentionally designed verbal observation. It’s a sentence that most always begins with these words:

“It seems like…”

“It sounds like…”

“It looks like…”

This phrase is then followed by your observation of the dynamic you wish to affect.

This is a crafted and targeted skill.

It’s seemingly innocuous. It will have an impact on what you’ve selected. It’s used to reinforce a selected positive dynamic or diffuse a selected negative dynamic. It’s a skill that allows you to surface objections and diffuse them, which are to your advantage and reinforce them.

You can label an action, an implication, an intuition, an affect; literally almost any part of the communication process that has, or is occurring. This process will be invisible to your Sugar Daddy.

An example of a label used when between a Sugar Baby seeking an allowance arrangement from a Sugar Daddy who has made it known he is not looking for a gold-digger or an escort.

The Sugar Baby said:

“It seems like you don’t like providing financial assistance to help someone you care for on a continuous basis.”

This is an elegantly simple, yet versatile skill. You will feel awkward when first implementing this skill. I can promise you in advance the first time you use a label your imagination is going to conjure up an image of your Sugar Daddy jumping up and shouting “Don’t you dare tell me how I feel or what I will or will not do!” It’s not going to happen. But the only way you’re going to find out how undetectable labels are is by using them.

How to use labels

Labels are used for confirmation of understanding, for digging in deeper, and even as a way to ask a question. A label can be constructed as a statement by using a downward voice inflection (think “Marilyn Monroe voice”) at the end of the sentence or as a question by using an upward voice inflection (sweet and playful voice) at the end of the sentence just as you would when you ask a question.

Labels encourage your Sugar Daddy to be more responsive. They will usually give you a longer response than just a “yes” or a “no”. With someone who won’t answer at all it will usually get them to give you at least a “yes” or “no”.

The use of several labels in a conversation will accumulate to achieve breakthroughs.

Recall the Sugar Baby seeking a better understanding about the allowance mentioned earlier, when the Sugar Baby thought she reached an impasse and was getting ready to gracefully part ways, she said:

“It sounds like there’s nothing we can do to come to a mutual understanding that will work out beautifully for us both.”

The Sugar Daddy then responded with “Yes there is” and proceeded to outline other options. They setup the arrangement that would benefit them both.

Start labeling right away. The sooner you get the feel for this skill, the sooner you will be generating breakthroughs.