Secrets on Really Listening to your Sugar Daddy and the payoff
Multitasking the Right Way
Your natural inclination to multitasking can be redirected to make you a better Sugar Negotiator.
Consider the following:
There are a variety of sources that provide that people roughly speak at the rate of about 125 – 160 words per minute and our brains have the capacity to process about 400 – 600 words per minute.
Therefore, if you are keeping track of only the content, then you have excess mental capacity that’s not being used. If you don’t know what else to keep track of, your mind is invited to wander (or multitask).
By focusing on the tone and body and actively listening, there may be as much as 5x more information to process from the tone of voice alone. This begins to stretch the capacity of the brain without even adding in the brainpower necessary to construct verbal responses or take good notes.
Additionally, there are estimates that equate the amount of visual information being given off by a person’s body language to be approaching the equivalent of 1000 words per minute. If this is anywhere near true, the visual data alone, without asking the brain to do anything else, stretches your mental capacity to keep up.
Therefore, the advice here is for you to use the negotiation skills being provided to assist you with how you position yourself to getting what you want. So, when you are on a date…don’t just show up and be pretty. Use your time wisely and pay close attention. Ask questions and LISTEN to how he responds (the tone and his body language).
Use the skills to clarify and dig more deeply into what’s being said in order to discover the value.
Here’s what the best practice is:
Compare how something is being said to what’s being said.
Gently react to any perceived incongruence – use a label. Whether consciously or unconsciously, your Sugar Daddy will leave you clues as to hidden problems by their tone of voice and body language. A lack of clues is no guarantee of no problems being present. It then becomes your job to gently uncover them. Use your Sugar Spidey Senses!